Yes, Sand Blending ceremonies, Unity Candles, Hand Fastings, Love Letter Boxes, "Jumping the Broom" and other "blending" options are all possible and welcomed. Couples provide the candles, sand, containers, etc.
Currently, North Carolina does not recognize same sex marriages. I DO!
The state will not issue a marriage license for a same sex couple. As much as I strongly disagree with current law, I do not see that changing in the near future
If you are of legal age and capacity and desire a marriage ceremony, but are unable to apply or receive a license from the local register of deeds because of a law that needs changing, please contact me.
While NC may legislate issuance of a marriage license, the law can not tell you whom to love or with whom to be. Only your heart can tell you this. And that should be as important to you as it is to me.
Just because the state of North Carolina doesn't recognize your relationship, I do. Your relationship does have value and should be respected. Your emotional connection is as valid and strong as any other.
If you are from a state that recognizes civil unions (or any other nuanced form of describing your relationship in a legal status) I can perform them in that jurisdiction. NC law does not address that fine point yet, except to fall back upon the old tried and true - "marriage is between 2 people of opposite sex, with a license issued by one of 100 counties, and legally performed by a minister, court officer, tribal leader"...
Please contact me for more information, noting that I am not an attorney, nor do I play one on TV, and therefore am unable to render or provide any legal advice concerning marriage or civil unions.
Let's examine the possibilities:
1. Couples with the same religious or spiritual background or denomination usually have no issues.
2. Couples with different backgrounds sometimes have concerns. (Actually, in my experience, their concerns are related to what their parents may feel) These issues may be magnified by the degree of how one practices within that belief. Additionally, sometimes the issues can be greatly magnified if the parents of one, the other, or both having strong feelings and want to "help" or "influence" either emotionally or financially how things will proceed.
I do counsel couples with these issues. I've also counselled parents and soon to be in-laws to be about some of the issues that couples will face. I offer to intercede with parents, too. My point is, if you love someone strongly enough, love will find a way. Life is too short to allow others to try to bring misery to your life. They can only do so, if you allow it.
Many of us will be celebrating a marriage other than our first one, at some point in our lives. Some of the couples I have married have been together a while. Some recently met. Some come with kids already to be blended into a family unit. Others have kids on the way.
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